Questions about sponsorships:

A) General questions 

B) Individual Sponsorship (= a sponsor a child) 

C) Referrals to a group of children


 

A) General Questions:

  • What is the difference between sponsorship and individual corporate sponsorship for the child and the sponsor?
    For the child, he undertakes to write to the sponsor (Individual par.) But he knows that this sponsor will personally help him to continue his studies. For the Sponsor, it is very different for collective sponsorship, the commitments and constraints are much less important than for an individual sponsorship for more details see the Sponsorship chapter.
  • I am free to stop sponsorship?
    • children home Sponsorship: YES, at any time, just let us know by phone if possible with 2 to 3 months' notice to give us some hope of finding a sponsor who will be missing at the children's home.
    • Individual sponsorship: Stopping sponsorship is more problematic. you can end your support by respecting a minimum notice of 3 months so as not to penalize the child and his family too much:
    • Why? While waiting to receive the sponsorship money (every 6 months) The sisters advance 70% of the sponsorship every month until they receive the money for the past 6 months. If the godfather disappears without warning, then we cannot inform the sisters to stop giving this money to the families. When we go to inform them (therefore too late), the family already in a precarious situation (since sponsored) will be plunged into great disarray because it will have to reimburse the sisters for the sums overpaid. In addition, the termination of sponsorship by the sponsor is often problematic for the child who sees it as an abandonment, an unfair injury. This is why we insist on the seriousness and the duration of the sponsor's commitment.
  • How long does a sponsorship?
    • children home Sponsorship: There is no precise limit ... it is at your discretion, or by decision of the Board of Directors (if there is a problem on site for example).
    • Individual sponsorship: The duration of the accompaniment is variable. End of sponsorship: Usually when the young person enters the workforce. He can have studied or followed an apprenticeship But also the sponsorship ends at the time of the marriage of the young person if the young person does not study for example. It is our correspondent on site who informs us of the imminent end of the sponsorship. She warns us a few months before, or in the event of an unforeseen event (accident, family move, ...) the sisters notify us as quickly as possible by email.
  • Can the sisters break a sponsorship?
    • Sponsorship of children's home a priori "no" unless the children's home closes due to lack of funding, for example.
    • Individual sponsorships: This can unfortunately be the case ... For example, in the event of force majeure (accident, disappearance of the child ...) but also, if the family does not respect the Sponsorship contract (does not the child at school, or does not take good care of him .... Finally, if the family situation improves and the correspondent judges that they no longer need the support of the sponsor. situation is very rare, but we encounter it from time to time.

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B) Individual Sponsorship (= a sponsor a child) 

  • General questions:

    • How to do ? that's it, I want to become a sponsor, I'm getting started. The problem is, I can't see a link for any form anywhere on your site.
      First we ask you to contact us. together we can better understand your sponsorship request and thus adapt your request as best as possible. We will email you the necessary sponsorship information. Contact
      • by email: tell us where we can reach you
      • by phone: 0687752892.
    • I am free to stop the individual sponsorship?
      YES, You can terminate your support: It is important to notify us at least three months before your quitting date to give us time to try to find another sponsor. The termination of sponsorship by the sponsor is often problematic for the child who saw it as an abandonment, an unjust wound. This is why we insist on the seriousness and the duration of the sponsor's original commitment.
    • The sponsor is he committed?
      It is he who decides ... !!! The sponsor can just make an exceptional donation or regular donations by becoming a sponsor. The day he decides to quit he warns us by email if possible two months before his departure so that we try to find another sponsor .... and that we warn the person in charge of the center that she does not count on his participation in the operating budget of the reception center.
    • If I choose the individual sponsorship, is not it unfair and selfish?
      No because you know that Individual sponsorship requires more personal investment than the collective, after that it's up to you to see it is obvious that by starting a sponsorship
    • Exchanges with the child: Are we going to be able to correspond very often? Why do we ask sponsors to write at least 2 letters per year?
      Children do not have the Western culture of writing, often they do not speak English. Don't expect a real match, very few children can. They will send you, depending on their age, more or less long but often colorful missives! The content may disappoint you if you expect consistent correspondence. Children write 2-3 letters per year. An adult will translate his letter into English. The sister in charge of sponsorship collects the letters and sends them in a package to the president of the association (Isabelle) who will send them to each sponsor.
      We ask the sponsor to also make the effort to write to the child twice a year at least. This last point is extremely important. This is the only hub to make the kid "at the end of the world" understand that you exist that you are not just a name or money to get him or her to school.
    • It is not seen as a form of assistance that sponsor a family way? What does this amount to the Indian family?
      the sponsorships that we organize cannot be perceived as assistantship. Families have other income. Normally a family cannot live on just the 600 rupees a month they receive for their child's education. to buy rice for a family of 4 you need about 800 rupees per month. It is considered that the "floor" income of a family of 4 is a minimum of 5 to 6000 rupees per month to be able to live. (the rent for a poor 2-room house is 1600-3000 rupees in the Cochin region for example.
    • Bring the child I thought I could sponsor a child and after some time to come to France to spoil. Will I be able to?
      Nothing prevents you but we strongly advise against it. The child is happy (partly thanks to you) in his Indian universe. France, Europe is far too different, it would lose all its marks and risk not being able to adapt to our everyday life. Besides this aspect of total change of scenery. The administrative formalities are very heavy and expensive. Why spend so much money Instead, make a substantial donation to the family, to the child for his studies, you will be much more efficient for his future.

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  • Questions on children families:

    • How do you not create tensions within a family where only 1 is sponsored child?
      We do not encounter this problem !!! it is a very European question (European, American, ... rich?). Indian fatalism, their spirit of mutual aid ... the problem does not arise.
      When a child is sponsored, the whole family benefits, it is a great hope for all. If the godfather sends a small gift to his godson he also spoils the brothers and sisters (in general there are 2 to 3 children per family sometimes 4 but this is rare.) Having the chance to be accepted by a stranger .. .they think we are all rich. every time we go there we explain to families that we are not that rich in our countries ...
    • The sponsorship money is that for the sponsored child?
      Yes and no !!! Yes, because this money allows the child to go to school and that part of the money will be saved for his studies. No because the whole family also benefits (the 600 rupees given to families monthly). See the chapter referring to this question: Individual sponsorship.
    • How parents live they having one of their sponsored children? Is it not a stranger upset the sustenance and not them?
      Rather, it is a great chance for them because they know that they cannot "make ends meet" no matter how hard they try. They are so grateful. the godfather is going to give their children what they cannot do.
    • How do you manage not to create tensions between the different families when one of them is sponsored?
      They are used to helping each other, they live in neighborhoods where they are all poor !!! I have seen really poor families give something to a neighbor to whom a tragedy happened.
      There is no tension ... still this fatalism perhaps? The neighbors are happy for them ...
    • I would like the address to the family correspondence, is this possible?
      We do not recommend it. These families live in slums, there is no address, no street !!!! When we visit families "the address which is indicated is the name of the district ... then" near "Vishu" the third house ..... This is not enough for the postal services ... Their mail is kept in post office boxes open to all so not too sure !!! (if families live in rented houses, they move regularly). We prefer that the couriers go through the address of the sisters because it is much more reliable.
    • Can we meet the children we sponsor?
      YES, YES, YES, you will be welcomed with open arms by the sisters. she will organize an RV with the children it is a real party for them all the neighborhood rejoices it is the party ... FOR European families it is a unique moment ... of emotions and smiles. ... We encourage you to try the experience
      Discover some testimonials from sponsors, sharing of emotions. Testimonials - Sharing of emotions.

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  • Mailings, gifts:

     

    • I want to send gifts to my sponsored child, how it happens?
      You can do this, as with letters, you send your messages and packages directly to the sponsorship center on which the child depends (the address is on the site as a member, or on the information sheet on the child that we provide to you. communicated at the beginning of the sponsorship) indicating clearly on the name of the child.
    • How do I have proof that my gift has arrived to my child?
      The proof ... it's not easy !!! for letters from sponsors: we ask the children to thank the sponsor in their mail if he has sent a note. Some children despite our request do not.
      For the gifts that the sponsors send, we ask the sisters to let us know when they receive a gift for a child from the association and as soon as we receive the information by email, we send it to the sponsor. Sometimes, when the Sisters are overwhelmed they do not transmit the info; - ((But in all cases the sponsors can send us a little email about 3 weeks after sending their package to ask us if it has been received. then make the request and we generally have the answer within 48 hours.
    • Will I receive a picture of my godson with the gift I sent?
      Normally, NO, the first Saturday of the month when the families parade "in single file" the sisters really do not have time to take pictures .... for example in the center of Cochin (the largest sponsorship center 400 families are sponsored by different international organizations !!!! We are not alone.On the other hand in the smaller centers such as Kottayam or Valparai if the sponsor tells us (not too late) that he would like a photo of the child and gifts sent We can make a request to the sister in charge of sponsorship.
  • Money on site:

    • How to ?
      We suggest donating € 20 per month. (For more info: see the Individual sponsorship article).
    • Why 25 € minimum for sponsorships?
      This is the sum that best corresponds to the needs of families while remaining in the Family Assistance without becoming an assistantship. and which best corresponds to the monthly possibilities of the sponsors.
      For the details of the use of the sponsorship sum see the Individual sponsorship article.
    • Until early 2015 this amount was € 20 per month. At the request of our correspondents and members present at the last general assembly, considering the current cost of living on site, we have decided to increase this contribution to 25 € / month.
      Sponsors already participating in the association are welcome to change the amounts of their payments. it is clear that this is a recommendation but not an obligation for former sponsors. 
    • You say that about 25% of the 25 € monthly is saved in an account for the child. Can we have a statement from time to time to verify funds?
      For each center, the practice is a little different depending on the computer capacities of the sister in charge ... Regarding the registered savings account in South India, one cannot without the eyes and the signature of the parents open a registered savings account for a child. We don't want parents to be able to use these kid-only accounts. So in general the official account is common to children. Each center manages the detail for each child separately. Any financial movement on the children's current account or savings is recorded on an excel sheet (for Kottayam) in a large notebook on the child's page for Cochin as well as for Valparai. Once a year, the child's current account is cleared; the correspondents transfer the balances into savings: the rest of the 70% unspent and the balance of the 25% savings not yet returned to the bank. Until now on each of our trips we took a picture of each account to be able to present it to the sponsor.
      We are currently trying to set up excellent workbooks to collect this data on computer. IT is not always easy IT with the sisters !!!) but THEY ARE IMPROVING ...
    • You also say that these savings can be used in severe family problems. Do I have a say? Decides that it is a big problem?
      Yes and no ... Yes if the reason is not vital to the family (buy a piece of land in the name of the child so that the family can live there ....) the sister will ask us for it but hey if the sister requests it, it is because it is justified. No if it is a vital and urgent matter for the family, for example payment of rent if not expulsion, payment of hospital costs for the child. ... It is the sister in charge of the family who is the sole judge at this level. She knows families and her work well.

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C) Sponsorship of a group of children (Sponsor a group of children)

  • General questions:

    • For who? Are individuals sponsoring?
      FOR ALL ... the principle is to allow the reception of children from urban or street cans in children's homes. Several sponsors sponsor the same orphanage. If you don't want to get too personally involved, this sponsorship principle is the one for you. You pay the sum that suits you (we recommend a minimum of 20 € / month) and this sum will be given to the children's home that you have chosen.
    • You say that the collective sponsorships are more united than the individual sponsorships?
      Yes, because it is not just one child that you are helping but the community of children who are welcomed. So several children of all ethnic or religious origins.
    • what is it really for?
      Between 2008 and 2010 the childcare capacity in each orphanage fell by 25% due to lack of funding YES WE ARE LOOKING FOR SPONSORS of children's homes so that this trend is reversed otherwise in 6 years there will be no more childcare.
    • How the money is used for the community? Who decides what to do?
      We send all the sums received for the children to the sponsorship manager who will herself return and distribute according to our wishes
      The money from collective sponsorships will be used: to finance a humanitarian micro-project that the community needs (purchase of tables, chairs, school supplies, etc.) or it is used directly to finance the lives of children (purchase of food , payment of living expenses, purchase of hygiene products, ....)
      It's the community that decides, not just a sister, and often they come back to us to ask us if it's OK !!! with our statutes ... We are always very impressed to see that there are no conflicts of interest in their Carmelite communities. Decisions are taken in consultation. The Sisters only stay in office for 3-4 years, so there is no time to establish too much power ... Their leaders are elected by themselves. There are no nominations. they designate by secret ballot who they find best suited to do the job and the cards are regularly reshuffled every 3 to 6 years depending on the position of responsibility. The Sisters "in charge" of sponsorship are transferred every 3 years.
    • What are the Indian government subsidies to sustain these children?
      Each children's home receives different grants. on average, we find that local governments allocate according to the days of the child's presence at school (excluding WE holidays and public holidays) which amounts to between 100 rupees and 300 rupees per child per month (between 2 and 4 euros / month) We remind you that it takes around 30 euros to support a child in a foster home !!!
      Therefore the sisters are to each child 26 euros remaining to accommodate them.
    • Can I stop my coaching easily?
      Yes Be careful to let us know if possible one to two months before your stop to give us time to find another sponsor and to inform the person in charge of the center.
       
  • Questions on children:

    • where do these children
      Each orphanage (reception house) recruits its children from different places. The house of Vypeen (district of Palliport) Little Flower Children's home, for example, accommodates children coming from the coastal villages of southern kerala (about 250km). The children come from the cans of cities and the streets of extremely poor villages.
    • They are orphans? and families then?
      Yes and no !!! It depends on the orphanages generally the children's homes accommodate around 10% orphans and for example the orphanage in the district of Palliport welcomes half of children without families.
    • Can we meet the children we sponsor?
      Yes, the sisters will receive you with open arms to bring you to see the children.
      Please note that you will have to plan your stay (hotel, meals, activities) independently of this visit, the sisters will not be your travel agent on site.

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